A World with Shallow People

The whole 'putting in work' process is tough. What you get isn't always what you thought you were working for. So I see why so many people are hesitant to put the work in, these days it's rare to get anything back. People say they want you to be true, but they aren't even real with themselves. We're in a world full of shallow people that lose interest fast because they lack the substance required to keep anybody's attention. Nobody wants somebody that doesn't make you feel lucky to have them. That's why when you come across somebody 'different' it's so important to appreciate the chance, you never know when it's coming back. We all want the same things but we're stuck playing the same old games and we don't get anywhere because we waste time pointing fingers. Who doesn't want somebody worth investing to? Somebody they can build with and not have to constantly worry about their loyalty changing? So sad to say but it's almost as if all the good ones have given up finding a good one. Scared of love, too good to work, and so full of pride that the potential doesn't matter. Maybe most have given up, but that's not me. I know it's out there and I know to keep getting better until I find it. And, I am praying and hoping you the strength to do the same. 

Toxic People

Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and their way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren't inherently bad people, but they aren't the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can't destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful - you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.

Marriage Box

Most people get married believing a myth that MARRIAGE is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. People put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage. The couple must form the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty. 

A Real Man

Is honest. Takes care of his health. Goal oriented. Gives up his seat for a woman. Tells the worst truth instead of a sweet lie. Listens. Reads. Is well groomed. Is secure enough to have her stand in the limelight. Smiles. Is romantic. Minds his manners. Holds doors for others. Is trustworthy. Is on-time. Treats service personnel with the respect they are due. Loves and respects his parents. Makes mistakes. Doesn't hold mistakes others make against them. Understands that he doesn't know everything. Makes a conscious effort to learn something new everyday. Loves hard. Says what he feels. Reads this without feeling offended. 

You Get Attached, Fast.

You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you're attached to someone, you do everything to please them and make them happy. It's never been about what you want, it's always everyone's needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. They take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you're okay with that,  because they're in your life and that's all you ever really wanted. And even if they screw you over, you'll still be there for them. Because that's you, that's who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that is why it's so hard for you to let that person go.

Love Thyself

Sometimes when the truth is revealed it can put people in state of shock. You have to let go of energies that no longer serve a purpose. You have to release the past in order to become free. You have to let go of your fear of the unknown and embrace life on its own terms. You have to grow. Earth is a school to human development. If you find yourself in constant repeated failure, remember the new people you meet will always remain the same. Just different players, same game. The people won't change until your mind changes. In other words, until you deal with the true self not the ego self and address the issues, you will be stuck in time going around in circles playing the same game never graduating to the next level. It's time now, LOVE YOURSELF.

He's not perfect, you aren't either.

You may not be his first, his last or his only. He loved before he may love again. But if he loves you now, what else matters? He's not perfect, you aren't either; and the two of you may never be perfect together. But if he can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you can break his heart. So don't hurt him, don't change him, don't analyze and don't expect more than he can give. Smile when he makes you happy, let him know he makes you mad, and miss him when he's not there.