A World with Shallow People

The whole 'putting in work' process is tough. What you get isn't always what you thought you were working for. So I see why so many people are hesitant to put the work in, these days it's rare to get anything back. People say they want you to be true, but they aren't even real with themselves. We're in a world full of shallow people that lose interest fast because they lack the substance required to keep anybody's attention. Nobody wants somebody that doesn't make you feel lucky to have them. That's why when you come across somebody 'different' it's so important to appreciate the chance, you never know when it's coming back. We all want the same things but we're stuck playing the same old games and we don't get anywhere because we waste time pointing fingers. Who doesn't want somebody worth investing to? Somebody they can build with and not have to constantly worry about their loyalty changing? So sad to say but it's almost as if all the good ones have given up finding a good one. Scared of love, too good to work, and so full of pride that the potential doesn't matter. Maybe most have given up, but that's not me. I know it's out there and I know to keep getting better until I find it. And, I am praying and hoping you the strength to do the same. 

Toxic People

Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and their way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren't inherently bad people, but they aren't the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can't destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your well-being a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful - you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.

Marriage Box

Most people get married believing a myth that MARRIAGE is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. People put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse it into your marriage. The couple must form the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.